Defined as an act of intentionally causing one’s own death, suicide is a global phenomenon because of which close to 800 000 people die every year i.e., one person every 40 seconds (as per a WHO report). Suicide is the ‘final step’ which a person takes when he/she feels there’s no other way out. Their troubled mind seeks that step when the doors of guidance, help, support, and compassion are closed. Something that is preventable is lost to the societal taboos and stereotypical norms. But is suicide the ‘only’ solution to the problem?
In a fast-paced stressful world that we are living in, there are times in everyone’s life when they feel depressed or lonely. Some fight with it and come out as a warrior, some give up and lose their lives. Mental Health has been undervalued and trivialized for decades now but it’s high time to transform the healthcare system. It is the helplessness and hopelessness contributes to suicide. Though there’s no one-size-fits-all prescription for mental health problems, the most effective way to deal with it is by understanding that it’s okay to talk. More awareness should be created around the importance of mental health. Social media plays an important role in causing depression and loneliness as we see how the grass looks greener on the other side. Seeing someone so happy makes it even worse for the ones, struggling with mental health. With everything going wrong in someone’s life, everything right in somebody else’s life makes them more depressed. But what they forget is not everything that shines is gold.
‘If you don’t get good marks, you’ll not get a good college and while your friends will settle down in their lives, you’ll be left behind.’
‘95% marks only? You’ll never succeed in your life!’
‘Look at your siblings, who well they are doing in their lives, when will you take your life seriously?’
‘Despite working hard for the promotion, your boss’ son was hired for the designation.’
‘He/she bought his/her parents a house and a car. Look at you! You just got us clothes.’
‘He/she doesn’t love me anymore. I don’t want to live.’
‘My family/in-laws are torturing me and I can’t take it anymore.’
‘I lost my job. How will I help my family survive?’
Be it a broken relationship, family or marriage, peer or parents pressure, jobs with financial woes or loneliness, depression, trauma, or any other mental health issue, there’s a never-ending list of problems in this world that make someone not want to live. For the ones, who want to live or are strong enough to deal with the problems of life, suicide often comes across as a coward way-out and a senseless act. But for those, who feel otherwise, they cannot find the meaning of life and with no future in sight, opting for suicide comes as a rational decision to end their pain and suffering. In the darkness, suicide seems to be their only ray of sunshine, a way to reclaim their sense of freedom.
While the ones with suicidal thoughts need to understand that suicide is NEVER the answer, others, instead of being judgmental, in a non-prejudiced way need to understand why someone takes that step and how you can empathize with them in a non-biased way. Some, who are dealing with suicidal thoughts, aren’t comfortable in being questioned openly about their issues and some sense a ray of hope when their loved ones ask them about their feelings as they feel they have people who genuinely care for them.
For once, we need to put shame and preconceived judgments aside as it may just save a life! And the best way to help someone get through the dark phase is with understanding, love, care, and empathy.
Whatever the problem is, one must speak to their loved ones or seek professional help and look out for the probable solutions. Even if you don’t find a solution, have faith in God, think of your family and friends, who are close to you and will be shattered if you take the drastic step of suicide.
If someone is experiencing suicidal thoughts and don’t want to open to people who are close to them, they can seek guidance by calling these helplines.
iCall, Mumbai: +91 22 2552111, +91 91529 87821
Aasra: +91 98204 66726
Fortis Stress Helpline: +9183768 04102
Parivarthan: +91 76766 02602
Cooj Mental Health Foundation: +832 2252525
Sneha Foundation: 044-24640050
Vandrevala Foundation: +91 730 459 9836, +91 730 459 9837, 1860 2662 345
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