Problems find solutions
Did you ever share your problems/ stories with a friend masquerading someone else’s name? I am sure, you did. We all did. I, just like my name Agony Aunt is here to give your problems the best of solutions. I am here to listen to all your bitchings and cryings. I am here to hear your boy problems. I am here to understand your stories without judging you (well, can’t promise).
So come on, let’s have a nice chat about your day today.
Dear Auntyji, How to improve my habits during the lockdown? Like I use my phone a lot before sleeping and as soon as I wake up, Daydream all day long, and dwell on my past mistakes and regrets. Do I have some serious problems? Because I can’t control myself. Please help me!
You don’t have a serious problem, you’re a problem! And you can control yourself and replace your bad habits with the good ones. But, you just need to be consistent!
Dear Auntyji, My boyfriend and I are planning to start a new business and I’m super excited about it. But, deep down I am so scared about the impact on our relationship. I don’t want the tension to seep into our relationship and create a chaotic environment around us. Please guide me.
Plan out a specific time that you guys are not gonna discuss your business at all. Simple! In Spite of having any problems with your startup. For example, 7:30 pm to 6:30 am no business talk or no business talk on Sundays. Additional advice, don’t be afraid to treat your boyfriend the same way you would with another co-worker. You can also take your business talks outside the house like in the coffee house or some restaurant
Dear Auntyji, I am losing my sex drive during this lockdown, since I’m seeing my husband every single time, feeling bored and don’t feel sexy. Because I’ve gained a lot of weight. What to do?
In this lockdown, the first thing you can do is sex if you’re living with your boyfriend or husband. But, your situation is completely opposite, and the last thing you think about is sex. That’s totally fine, there’s nothing wrong in that as long as you should start acknowledging that your hormones are crashing because you’re gaining weight and feeling stressed due to lockdown. Start working out or do some stretches in the morning, trust me, you’ll start feeling sexy again. Take a shower at night, make efforts to look appealing and put on some gloss. Surprise your husband with some small date in your balcony or in the bedroom. Because you’re not getting these days back to spend time with your husband 24/7. Your hair and nails are growing like crazy, start grooming yourself at home. You were just being lazy till now, put in some effort, you will see the results like magic.
Dear Auntyji, Here is my problem. I’m a socially awkward person. I’m anxious at all times everywhere. I’m scared to get up and ask for some water during meetings. I get easily humiliated or awkward if someone jokes about me or compliments me in public. When anyone comes to ask me about my awkward anxious behaviour, I immediately enter a nutshell. Is there anything to do because it worries me and I’m so done with my anxiety problem.
Beta, you might be going through social phobia. However, professional help is needed to rule out your disturbance. As you have mentioned that you’re reluctant when someone embarrasses or compliments you in public, try to not give a damn about the people and just walk away. I would suggest visiting a counsellor and don’t worry, you’re not alone!
Dear Auntyji, When I started dating a guy, everything was going amazing. Eventually, things have unfolded. I’m facing a new and biggest problem. The deal is that he is attached to his mother and since we’re staying away from our parents, he expects me to ‘baby him’ and look after his needs every single time. I am an extremely caring girlfriend but I’m not gonna start babying a 31-year-old. Please help me, I love this guy but I don’t want to end just a mother to him.
Look, firstly I just want to mention to you that you’re an amazing girlfriend and you have an extremely caring nature, which is what may have set the high expectations for your boyfriend. You might have to start taking a step back and start telling your guy to deal with his few situations and work by himself. Don’t worry, you’re not being rude, you’re just reinforcing him every time he expects you to baby him. This process will take some time, and this will surely help you to stop running to him at his first call. Remember, give yourself a priority first.